The Secret To Becoming A Mind-Blowing Lover, According to Escorts

If we're all being honest, most of us probably wish we were a better lover. The type of guy who never fails to leave their partner gasping, tingling, and craving more. Despite what you might believe, being unforgettable in bed isn’t about size, stamina, or some secret move you saw in a video. It’s about much more than that, and most of the time is easier than you might think.

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1. Talk and Listen

Sex isn’t just physical, it’s mental too. If you don’t talk about what you like (or listen to what your partner enjoys), you’re already missing a trick.

“Most guys focus too much on the act and not enough on the build-up,” says Kim, one of our top-rated companions. “The best lovers know how to talk, not just dirty, but also about what turns them on and what their partner enjoys.”

A study in The Journal of Sex Research found that couples who openly talk about sex are 10 times more likely to be satisfied in bed. So, don’t be shy! Ask questions, whisper desires, and give feedback.

And if you want bonus points? A little teasing before the action begins, flirty messages, playful touches, or a well-placed compliment, can do wonders.

2. Take Your Time with Foreplay

Foreplay isn’t the warm-up, it’s part of the main event. And yet, many rush through it.

“I can tell within minutes if someone is going to be good in bed by how they approach foreplay,” laughs Lorenza. “If you rush through it, you’re probably not going to be great at the rest either.”

Studies show that women take an average of 18 minutes to reach peak arousal, while men can be ready in just a few. If you’re skipping the build-up, you’re cutting the fun short.

Want to level up?

• Take your time. Kissing, teasing, and anticipation make everything hotter.
• Explore the whole body. We're talking neck, thighs, lower back… all underrated hotspots.
• Use your words. Compliments, dirty talk, and playful teasing work wonders.

3. Learn the Pleasure Zones

Think you know all the hot spots? Think again. While the G-spot gets all the attention, there are plenty of other areas that can send sparks flying.

“Most guys go straight for the obvious and forget everything else,” sighs Anne Marii. “Touching unexpected spots, like tracing fingers down the spine or kissing the back of the knees, makes everything more intense.”

For those looking to impress:

• The A-spot (deep inside, past the G-spot) is a hidden pleasure zone.
• The U-spot (just above the clit) is super sensitive.
• The F-spot (friction point inside) can create deep, toe-curling sensations.

And for men? The perineum (the space between the balls and the backdoor) can enhance orgasms like nothing else. Time to get exploring!

4. Use Your Hands More

Your hands are one of the most powerful tools in bed, yet most people underuse them.

“The best lovers know how to use their hands properly,” says Ysa. “Light teasing, firm strokes, soft touches… mixing it up makes everything more exciting.”

A study from the Kinsey Institute found that a mix of light touch and firm pressure increases pleasure by 80% compared to just one type of stimulation.

Try this:

• Alternate between soft and firm touches to keep things interesting.
• Use your nails lightly, a little scratch can send shivers down the spine.
• Guide, grab, and caress to show confidence and control.

5. Get Your Timing Right

Want to know the secret to explosive orgasms? It’s called edging, and it’s a game-changer.

“Edging is the secret to mind-blowing orgasms,” grins Alma. “It’s about stopping just before the peak and building it up again. The more you hold off, the stronger the finish.”

How to do it:

• When you or your partner are close to finishing, slow things down.
• Focus on teasing or switching to another sensation.
• Repeat the build-up two or three times before letting go.

The result? A release so powerful it’ll leave you both shaking.

6. Confidence is Everything

Want to know the sexiest thing about someone? It’s not their looks, it’s their confidence.

“A guy who knows what he’s doing and owns it? That’s hot,” says Leyla. “It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being in the moment and taking control.”

Confidence in bed doesn’t mean being aggressive, it means being comfortable, present, and sure of yourself. If you’re still working on that? Fake it till you make it.

7. Pay Attention

The best lovers don’t just go through the motions, they pay attention to what their partner is responding to.

“The best way to tell if you’re doing something right? Just listen,” Maya points out.

That means:

• Watching body language (moans, arching, changes in breathing).
• Adjusting based on their reactions.
• Checking in with a whisper or a teasing “Do you like that?”

Sex isn’t a solo performance, it’s a duet. The more you tune in, the better it’ll be.

Ready to Put These Tips to the Test?

Now that you’ve got the secrets to being a better lover, it’s time to practice. And who better to help you hone your skills than an expert? Check out our gallery and find the perfect partner to explore all these new tricks with. You’ve got the knowledge, now let’s see what you can do with it!